Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Plan to succeed

I'm three days in people (and I really should take before pics... I know how much people love to talk about me posting my daaaamn pictures).  Three days in to eating completely clean, except for the protein shake that I have after I work out or during lunch when I didn't plan ahead to bring something (but knew it best to sit in my office and not venture towards a drive-thru... plus it's like -580 out).  No more lattes or stops to Dunkin Donuts.  At least, not in the past three days.  I have substituted green tea for coffee.  While there may be no comparison in caffeine, I think it's just the habit of having a different drink besides that abundance of water I drink.  No headaches, not so moody (no more so than any other given day ;)). 

My three day success comes from planning ahead.  I have been following Ashley Horner's Becoming Extraordinary workout plan, as well as her 30 day "Becoming Extraordinary In the Kitchen" clean eating plan.  (*More information can be found here: Ashley Horner).

I have it all written out; meal-to-meal, workout to workout... and I also keep a training journal.  I carry all three of them with me wherever I go:

I drove an hour away to get that red journal because they were all sold out or back-ordered online.  It's not *just* a journal.  It is blank dated, but has a lot of information surrounding running, motivation, goal setting, etc. within it.  I like it. 

The other aspect of my three-day success rate (besides planning)... is actually GOING and DOING.  I have been going to the gym during my lunch hour.  I can't go before work... children.  I can't go after work... children.  So, I have to go DURING work and thankfully I have the opportunity to escape for an hour.  I don't get my workout completely done, but I utilize what I need to at the gym and do the rest at home... (or the majority of the rest, like last night.. I didn't do three exercises out of the 14 that were left... I needed assistance and didn't wanna bug the BF for help). 

I work around everyone else's schedule to make mine work work (I think that's the definition of a good mom)... I plan ahead.  Like today, I knew that I would not be able to finish the workout at home after work (we have a basketball game to go to)... so, I made it a rest day and will do it tomorrow instead. 

There are no excuses this time. It's either I do it.. or I don't.  Period.

I either plan to succeed... or I don't. 

Which are you gonna do?  You have a choice.. and if you start coming up with excuses, let's chat about them.

Sunday, January 4, 2015

It's been awhile they say...

Why yes, it has!  I think the last time I posted was me announcing that I was planning to the Marine Corps Marathon.  Maybe some of my followers thought I died during training, because I sure know that at times I felt like I was going to.

But, unfortunately to my haters... I didn't.

I survived.  I crossed the finished line.  I cried.  But I can say that in 2014 I became a marathoner.  I think about 1% of the entire population completes a marathon.  *Bam*  This girl did it.

I sure had my doubts, a lot of them.  But I learned a lot:

*  if you have a plan, you are more than likely to follow it
*  if you post about your plan for others to see, you will be held accountable
*  if you invite others to join you on said plan, you will be held accountable
*  Saturday mornings were meant for long runs.  Really, really long runs.
*  alcohol isn't the only thing that makes your filter go away.  I know I had a few unfiltered, heart to hearts (with tears) during my long runs! ;)
*  it takes a strong level of commitment and motivation.  Every Saturday from June-October was spent running,  A lot.
*  create long runs with lots of hills.  They will make you cry and swear and contemplate your sanity.. but they WILL help you with endurance and stamina.
*  to keep running after the marathon is completed.  I have yet to commit to this, but that's part of the reason for this blog post... to create more goals, announce my plans and to be held more accountable. :)

I truly learned a lot about myself as well:
* I am capable
* I am strong
* If I set my mind to it, create a plan, I can do it
* Take one day a time, don't look too far ahead
* Fuel your body appropriately.  It IS  a machine and that machine will run (literally) as it's supposed to with the correct nutrients.

I mostly learned that:  I AM A MARATHONER.  PERIOD.

Will I run another marathon has been the question that many ask.  Answer:  *honestly* I do not know.  Probably.  There's a time to beat, my time.. as I am only in competition with myself.  But in the mean time my goal is to get stronger, lean out and fuel my body with clean, healthy meals.  I really want to concentrate on my body and soul this year.

Training for the marathon was stressful.  It was time consuming, physically and mentally.  It's really all I thought and talked about.  Was the stress worth it?  YES!  Having that Marine put that medal around my neck was what all of the sweat and tears were about.. there was probably some blood along the way... Actually, I didn't trip or fall at all, surprisingly.

This year I plan to lift heavy and eat clean... and live in the moment.  I also plan on giving more to others.  Starting in June and going through August I will be facilitating two group training runs in my hometown.  The training runs will get a couch-ridden individual to completing a 5k or 10k in August, in conjunction with a race that is on the schedule.  Contact me if you wanna join!  It's completely free.  :)

Happy 2015.

Derived from the "Believe. Training Journal" by Pro Runners:

"Setting goals gives your life meaning.  The feeling of setting a goal, working hard, and then achieving it is the best."  - Sarah Jamieson, Olympian and Commonwealth Games Silver Medalist

Set some goals for 2015.  Answer the following questions and write your responses down:
* What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?
* Where do your aspirations come from?
* What stands in the way of your goals?

If you join my training program this summer be ready to learn a lot about yourself!  <3

Saturday, August 16, 2014


You hit the gym faithfully (or you don't).  You sign up for every class that the gym offers (or you don't).  You run mile after mile, after mile (...or you don't).  You lift until your muscles are spent (OR YOU DON'T).  Even if you do ALL of that... or not, you may not be seeing results.  Why?

Why are you not losing body fat?  FAT.  Fat.  F.  A.  T.

Why are my muscles not growing?

Well.  What are you feeding them?  Yes... FEEDING them.  You fed the fat for so long... why not rethink the science of our machines and evaluate what you are giving your muscles to grow on. 

The answer is simple. 


Do you have annnnny idea how many grams of fat, carbs and protein you are consuming PER day?  Per week?  NOT CALORIES.  DO NOT COUNT CALORIES.  SERIOUSSSSOULY.  UGGGH...

Did you know that there are 3 macronutrients that have EVERYTHING to do with your body composition? 

If you need help to get that scale to budge (haaate that so many rely on this, myself included)... those jeans to loosen up or for that nice little definition between the bicep and tricep.. well.. let me challenge you.

I dare you to be honest with yourself.  Completely honest.  Log your food for 7 whole days.  Log the FAT, CARB and PROTEIN of every ounce that goes into your pie hole.  All food, drinks, vitamins, tastes of brownie batter, etc... all of it.

At the end of the week review what went in.  Were you eating too many carbs?  Too much fat?  Too little protein.

I think you will be surprised.

There's something that I want to try to obtain MY results.. which may not work for you.  It's called If It Fits Your Macros (IIFYM); google it.  It asks you to weigh every single gram of fat, protein and carbs that go into your body.  All of it.  It depends on if you wanna bulk, cut, lose fat, etc.. for what your numbers are to be.

But I do know that when I plugged my numbers in, my expected intake was far HIGHER than what I was doing.  I have always despised the 1200 calorie rule to lose weight, it just doesn't work.  I knew that I needed to eat 1 gram of protein per day per body pound.  And I have been increasing my protein which is why I am seeing results.  Now if I were to take on the challenge myself of logging every little detail (and I don't mean into My Fitness Pal).. and looking at the 3 macronutrients needed... I would be pretty surprised.

Lately, I have been eating what I want, in moderation.  I've even added more SALT to my diet because of the long distance running that I have been doing.  Yeah, salt.  I hate salt.  Anyone that knows me knows that I hate salt.


I challenge you to lift heavier weights, eat more protein, check out IIFYM just so you have an idea of where you should be at. 

Nothing feels more girlier than going for a wax today, having lunch with the girls, only to come home and lift some iron.  Bam.

Just a few short weeks out from the Marine Corps Marathon (26.2 mi)... 10 to be exact.  Yeah.  Yikes.  My longest run to date has been 15 miles.  It.  Was.  Awful.  I didn't start until 10:30 am because I had a goal of making it to Goodyear Lake at 1:00 for a 31 Party.  YeaH, I had the genius idea of running from Worcester to Goodyear Lake.  At mile 8 I called Jeff and asked him, "what the effff am I doing?!"  We chatted a bit and we came to the conclusion that I needed some fresh h20.  Mine was warm and was watered down Vitamin Water.  I needed something more.  So, I kept plugging along until he found me... at mile 11.  He asked me if I wanted to come home with him.  I thought about it for about 2 minutes and knew that if I went home I was going to have to clean.  I told myself I had just a little over a 5k left to do.  So, I sucked it up.  
When I got to my destination... I was 14. something.  My watch NEEDED to be beep at 15.  So I kept running back and forth in front of camp until it beeped.  I walked into camp and my sister-in-law said, "Did you just run all of the way here?!"  Yes.  Yes I did.  And it was all worth it at that moment.

That handsome guy in the picture has been joining me for most of my shorter, weekday runs.  Tomorrow we will run 8 together.  And then... it only goes up from there; 15, 17, and uppppp.

I'm hoping that a local will join me in my journey of competing in the 39th Marine Corps Marathon.  These long runs are getting super boring and lonely.  It would also be nice to travel with someone and split costs (ughghghg money).  I haven't decided if I am going to have the children join in on the events or not.  I'm thinking it might be TOO much chaos and running around for them.  I don't know yet.  :-/

Anyways, I just wanted y'all to know where I'm at and that I haven't thrown the towel in.  I actually feel pretty good.  I had to take a week off because emotionally I was spent.  I also was FAR too sore from a TRX class.  Crazy how sometimes we feel overworked and other times we feel on top of the world.  Every day is different and so is each workout.

So, plan for the week, hold onto the day and seize the moment.  It's all you've got.

Saturday, July 12, 2014

I'm Not Gone, I'm Just Flyin' High && Makin' Changes

You ain't gettin' rid of me!  I know it's been fooorrrreeeevvvvver since I last updated this blog.  I think 2 months or so.  But I've been buuuuusy.  I'm finally acclimated to my new job (which I looove) and am in the process of doing some heavy duty training.

As far as flyin' high and makin' changes.. see for yourself:

I JUST (today, 5 min ago) decided to unpack my 2nd tote of summer clothes....

Yeah, he got BIG and I got SMALL.  
I mean, my face is half the size it was, LOL.  My nose is getting bigger because my face is getting so small.  Blows my mind.

So,what have I been doing for the past two months?  A LOT.

I completed Phase 1 of Ashley Horner's (now Cline, congrats!) Recreating You program (a months worth):

  I then hired a virtual running coach named Laura Peifer.  Her blog is:

I had a REALLY bad 9 mile run back a few weeks ago.  I reached out to a number of running coaches and I liked what she had to say. Basically I was treating every run as a race and was not really paying attention to my pace.  She mapped out a plan for me knowing what my goals (and secret goals) are for the Marine Corps Marathon in October.

Since then I have ran another half marathon: 
 and Spartan Sprint:

I shaved time off of my last Spartan Sprint and Half Marathon.  Ahh-mazing.  

Basically I have been working and training.  


I also turned 30.  Yeah, that happened.  The boyfriend took me to Ithaca, NY for a short vacation of hiking, running and a little bit of wine tasting.  Neither of us really consume alcohol due to training and leading a healthier lifestyle, so that was different.  

It really is weird all of the changes that I have experienced in the past 10 years.  Apparently, my 20s were meant for growth, change, tears, heartache, sadness, confusion and ... GROWTH.  10 YEARS ago if you told me I wouldn't be eating at Jack's twice a week, drinking maybe 3 times a month, that I would weigh 40 lbs less, and be training for a marathon... I would have laughed at you... and said, "pshh, yeah, okay, no thanks."    

I wish someone would have told me what I know now.  It would have sparred me a few stretch marks (most of my stretch marks came from weight gain due to poor eating habits, little to do with growing two beautiful babies).  ...which I guess helped reduce stretch marks while pregnant?  err, not.  I dunno.  I don't care about them.  They don't bother me.  I can run up a flight of stairs and chase after my kids without dying... do you REALLY think stretch marks phase me?

Anywho... I'm continuing to make changes, fight my battle with my mind that I can't do this, over-power my anxieties and continue this thing we call Life.

I can happily report that I love life.  Something else I would not have said years ago or even just a few years ago.  It took me awhile to find myself.  But here I am... and I'm not going anywhere.

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Passive-aggressive? Why the hostility?

So it’s been a few weeks since my last blog.  Believe me, I have had plenty to write about ...but each time I reflected on it I realized how passive-aggressive it really was… and is THAT healthy?!  Not so much.  So, I let it go, communicated about it with the other party and carried on.  I have come to realize that in order to grow or feel content with my life, that is what I need to do.  If I have a problem, I have to talk about it.  The other party may not even be privy to the fact that there IS a problem!!
But in all of that self-reflection and processing I have realized that there is a lot of sadness in our society; the belittling of others, the poor boundaries between child/adults, the notion that everyone is entitled to whatever they please… etc.  I could go on and on and it may turn into passive aggressiveness.  So, I won’t do it or at least I’ll try not to do it.  **Being mindful over here**
However, I will relay what I do to cope with all of that… because I COULD eat all my emotions.  I could destroy my self esteem and feel that I should not be able to walk around my own house in a sports bra, but I won’t do that.  I will continue to flaunt my progress.  I will continue to show the teenage girls in my house that it doesn’t matter if you have stripes on your belly, a big nose, freckles, etc… you embrace it.  I don’t care if you want to throw up or not… well, I do CARE.  I do find it hurtful.. and I hate that women/girls have this message about ourselves that we need to hide who and what we are. At the convenience of what?!  Protecting someone else from having a negative opinion about us??  Women are beautiful.  Men are beautiful.  We are all human.  I really don’t understand the meanness, really I don’t.  I get, clinically speaking, where it stems from.. but I won’t go there.  I am going to be “social worker not working” on that one for the time being.
Anyways, lesson learned.  You having a negative opinion about me… is YOUR problem, not mine.  I am who I am and I fought to get here.  And not to be cocky or anything, because I am extremely insecure, but I am starting to kind of like myself.  There, I said it.. I kinda like me.  And if you don’t like me, while I do find it hurtful because you probably don’t really KNOW me… it’s really not my problem.  :)
So in my coping and getting to like myself I have realized that my competition is only in my mirror.  I AM MY OWN COMPETITION.  That’s it.  While I would love to look like Ashley Horner (Google her… ), I am not ever going to BE her.  I have many similar qualities and aspirations, but at the end of the day I am me and she is who she is.  Instead, I mimic her program and strength training...
After tears are shed and confrontation to be had, I mean communicating, of course. .. I lift my chin, lace up my sneaks and hit pavement.  I do that a lot.  I run a lot faster and harder then, too.  So when you see me posting a map with an 8:40 pace, consider me pissed.  ;) 
But in doing all of that (lacing up my sneaks and being pissed) I have lost a tremendous amount of weight.. not purposeful by any means… it is what it is when doing cardio.  Therefore, I have seen (yes, I took progress pics again last night.. stay tuned) that I have lost muscle mass and I need to gain that weight back, just making sure it’s muscular.
Therefore, I decided to pick up my strength training habits and took on the Recreating You program by  Ashley Horner (squats after squats after squats after lunges after.. yeah my legs hurt today).  We ALL struggle with something when it comes to fitness.  Many of you tell me that I am soooo skinny, I can’t wait to be that skinny.. While I take pride in that,  please know that I also struggle.  I am now going to struggle with trying to put muscle on.  It’s all a battle.  It’s especially going to be hard while marathon training.  So I guess it’s back to eating chicken at 10:00 am! 
But I am aware.. and I started.  Day one took three hours because of parenting!  LOL  Yeah, I started my workout at just after 6 and didn’t end until 9:20 or so.. and it really wasn’t that long, but there were constant interruptions and life goes on.  I get that!  But I don’t make excuses.  And if you hear me making on or see me posting something, call me out on it please.  PLEASE.  J

ORG Represent!!
But all in all, the marathon training is going fairly well.  I really don’t start my actual training until June.  In the mean time I am training for a half (Race the Lake in Cooperstown)… and doing 5ks and what not in between.  Trying to increase my time and not run so heavy.  I even WALK heavy.  I really need to correct that…  I thank you ALL for your support and donations.  I secured a bib in just one short week because of you.  I still need to pay for it, but I will get there eventually!!!  But keep the donations coming and support the cause.  It’s a good one:

Saturday, March 29, 2014

The harder the challenge, the greater the triumph

So true.  There's something to be said about completing a challenge and that feeling of "I did it."

I will have to keep telling myself this as I train for the 2014 Marine Corps Marathon (26.2 miles)!  Yes.. I decided to take on the challenge of training and running for the MCM in October.  I have decided to raise money through a charity called "Homes for Our Troops."  It's an organization that builds specially adapted homes for our severely injured veterans.  I chose this particular charity because I have been working with a number of homeless (not injured, but homeless) veterans since beginning at OFO.  It deeply saddens me to see anyone homeless, but to see a veteran.. one of our own, young or old, struggling is even more disheartening.  We have conversations about the duty that they have fulfilled for our country and how as a country we fail them.  Therefore, I've wanted to bring awareness around this and raise money for a charity closely related.  I cannot even fathom the struggles of injured, physically injured, veterans.  If you would like to read more about the charity and to support my efforts here is a link to do so:

I thank all of you that have supported and encouraged me thus far.  I know that finances are a struggle for many... oh I know this all too well, but please consider any amount.  A little goes a long way.  I am more than half way to my goal already!

So, with that being said.  I officially started training today.  My goal was to complete my task at hand within an hour and I told the girls to call 911 if 2 hours had passed.  My goal was to run a "country block."  For those of you that know where I live you're probably thinking... okay, "where?"  Yeah, I made a left out of my driveway... with my bonehead of a dog that's never ran with a human before.  Over an hour later we returned.  :-p

It.. Was... Awful...

First of all.. I haven't ran in months, but that's okay.. I was prepared for that!  Secondly, Ruby is a Border Collie/Aussie mix.  A herding dog.  And that's all she did to me the entire 5 miles was herd me.  I take that back.  Around mile 4 she got tired... and then she was absolutely perfect.  But the first four miles were a workout that I did not anticipate.  I knew that she was going to be moronic.  But I did not expect her to jump at my feet each time a car came.  I really think that she was overly excited and just couldn't wait to see what was next!  Going down hill was awful.  Trying to hold her back without wanting to kill her was a workout in itself.  Of course going uphill she wanted to stay behind me at that point... so almost dragging her or at least having a taut rope the entire time.  See:
She's a bright dog... and needs some work.  JW is to run with her from here on out until she gets a hang of it!

So, I did just over 5 miles in just over an hour... This is what a country block looks like:

That orange part in the upper right?  That's a hill.  A muddy, messy hill.  These pictures do not do justice:

So, any time you wanna run a "country block," let me know.  The pace will be significantly faster and there will not be a dog in tow!!!

There's a lot of training to be done.  So, what better motivation than signing up for a few races.  My tenative race schedule is as follows:

April - Cider Mill 5k -- haven't registered
May - Base Race 10k -- haven't registered
June - Spartan Sprint
June - Race the Lake 13.8 ( -- haven't reigstered
July -  Boilermaker 15k
Aug - Camp Chingachgook Challenge 1/2 Marathon ( -- haven't registered
Sept - Ragnar Adirondacks -- haven't registered

Please feel to join me on any of them!  You can even sign up for your own charity bib for the MCM if you wanna take part in that!  Really, you can!!

I thought that this would be the year for me to do so because  I will be turning 30 in July.  My BFF Kimmy will be running the Boilermaker with JW and I.  I cannot wait! :)  I'm so excited for that one.  But I figured, I'm turning 30, I have Saturday mornings free... I can do long runs then and run for about a half hour on my lunch breaks... so, it should be ooookay-ish.  We will see... and I'll be blogging about it along the way!  I really need to get registering for these races though.  It's so costly.. and catching up on 8 months of ... hell?... is going to take awhile.  :)  If only I could have sponsors... or if races could be free.  But, I truly and thoroughly understand the costs of them.  People ask me, "You pay to run in races..." Yeah, I do.  I never take the opportunity to explain why... but many races are raising money for charities, organizations and to bring awareness to a cause.  I guess it's the social worker within me... I dunno!

So, if you ever wanna hit pavement on a Saturday morning, let me know.  I am following a schedule until June and then a different one after that to train for the full marathon.  I'm willing to share that with you if you want to train for the Race the Lake 13.8 with me!!  :)  It's local to my home.  It's a long Cooperstown lake and will be a challenge in itself, but so entirely beautiful.  I am thankful that I heard about it... it's the first annual race and to be able to say "I've raced that one since the first year" will be a great thing to brag about years to come!  So, what do you think?

Thursday, March 20, 2014

One Size Fits All.

noun \ˈka-lə-rē, ˈkal-rē\ : a unit of heat used to indicate the amount of energy that foods will produce in the human body 

Now, I know that this blog may upset some people and feel targeted to a few others, but that is not my intention whatsoever. I just want to raise awareness, spark your own curiosity and for you to ask questions. 

So, in weight loss where does the 1200 calorie number come in? Where did that number come from? As women most of us have heard that we need to eat 1200 calories to either lose weight or to remain skinny. I want to send out a public service announcement that this is soooooo noooooooot truuuuuuuuue for everyone. At all. I really don’t even know where to begin, so I am going to speak from my own experience!! Disclaimer: I am not a nutritionist, just a nerdy social worker that has struggled with her own weight loss and was most recently described as “an info-mercial.” 

Therefore, I just want to speak to what I know, but it may not be true for all. 

With that being said, eating 1200 calories is not true for all. Have you done this sort of calorie restriction?! We pretty much ALL have, to only gain back what we lost and probably some more! Do you know WHY this happens?! Because you are STARVING your body. You may not feel like you’re starving, physically speaking.. but you may be experiencing other physical and mental symptoms… 

So, when you starve, you obviously shed fed… your body needs those calories, to produce energy for the body (calories). When you starve yourself of calories, it needs to be taken from some place. 

Therefore, yes.. you will drop weight and probably rather quickly if you restrict calories to this extreme. BUT, as sooooon as you feed your face your body is going to store that food. And it’s going to store that food as fat. Don’t believe me? Google it. 

So, my experience. I was informed by a professional that I needed to be at a 1200 calorie diet. Okay. I didn’t question it, but looking back I want to know where this number comes from. So, being the nerdy social worker, non-nutritionist that I am… I googled it. 

And there’s no real answer; other than it’s the number between keeping our body energized and being in starvation mode. Simple. 

Back to my experience… I stuck to this 1200 calorie diet and did well, weight loss speaking. I was tired, unmotivated, cranky, had headaches, etc. Who doesn’t have those symptoms with two young children?  I lost weight and I lost it quickly. At the same time as starving myself I was doing an abundance of cardio… burning MORE calories. Burning more energy. It caught up with me, quickly.. and I gained it back, not all, but some. Enough. Enough for me to say “enough is enough” and start over. I didn’t restrict my diet though. I did research, surprise! I started lifting and doing less “cardio-only” work; with my weight training was a portion of cardio with it. 

Today, I couldn’t tell you how many calories I eat. But I can tell you that I am officially down 38.3 lbs from when I first started entering my weight into MyFitnessPal (March 2012). I LOVED that app and I swore by it, because it worked at first. I only use it now to track my weight and I will never ever count calories again. 

Since this summer I have collected every fitness magazine there is for women. But I only use them for the workouts (ideas) and recipes (ideas). And in each of them are articles on how to burn calories the fastest; it’s what we are looking for and CONDITIONED to look for. Think about it, how did you originally learn that 1200 was the number? Even myfitnesspal encourages that number. I would much rather you speak to a number of professionals, they all have their opinions, as to the number that’s most appropriate for you. And it’s interesting, because myfitnesspal vs. fitbit, vs. whateverotherappgadget will all tell you differing numbers. Look it up. 

But in my boyfriend’s magazines or in lifting books it doesn’t mention calorie restriction or burning calories. 

Therefore, like with most of the media, I am soooo annoyed with the misinformation fed to us by the media about how to be fit, what weight loss is, what fitness is, what works., etc. All of these quick fad-diets, pills, energy drinks, drops, shakes, etc…. It’s soooo frustrating to me. When people ask me my “secret,” what I do, what I did…. I say, eat a lot. And I do. I eat every 2 hours. Literally. 

Nothing like warming up chicken breast in your office at 10 am in the morning and being asked how much chicken I can possibly eat in one day. I guarantee you it’s more than 1200 calories worth (well, not all chicken, but brown rice and bell peppers with it!).

I just want women to see that we do not need to skip meals, restrict our diets, be miserable…etc. Look into eating unprocessed foods, natural, organic, lean meats..etc… That’s not to say I don’t eat “junk.” Panera has my name all of it. Every morning. With it’s caramel latte. 

We NEED calories. We need energy for our body. Our body is a machine and we need to fuel it. If we don’t, it stops working, it gets ill, we’re more receptive to getting illnesses (physical and mental) when we are starving. 

The best advice I can give to anyone.. and for those that have asked me already know the answer that I give… don’t starve yourself. You want to lose inches, eat more and lift heavy, do cardio.. but don’t starve yourself. 

I’m not saying I eat a HIGH calorie diet, I don’t even know.. what so ever. I portion control. I eat lean meats. I eat lots of veggies… and I also did my research around a different scientific method of weight loss/muscle gain called “If It Fits Your Macros.” For some, it’s too much.. but I took the underlying message and went with it. We need high protein and we still need fat and carbs. I’m not going to go there, unless you want me to.. in that case, hire me as a life coach, lol. Seriously. I won’t mind doing the work for you to show you what you need to be eating, even creating a meal plan for you. I can give you an idea of what I eat on a daily basis and what’s worked for me. 

The bottom line is the fact that our bodies are machines and they need to be fueled appropriately. We wouldn’t put kerosene in our gas running cars, so don’t put shit into your body that doesn’t belong and will only make it spit and sputter….

    and most importantly, don’t restrict it. We wouldn’t expect to get to a destination in our car across the country on a quarter tank of gas…. 

Just a tid bit of info that I found in my research, that makes most sense to ME:
    Find your activity level below (“And Your Number Is...”). Multiply your weight by the number indicated. (You may fall between two categories. If that's the case, adjust the number by adding a point or so.) The result is the number of calories you need to maintain your weight. Let's say you weigh 135 pounds and do light exercise one to three days a week. Multiply 135 by 13.5 to get, approximately, 1,800 calories. If you want to drop some pounds, try cutting out 250 calories a day. In a year, if you make no other changes, you could be 26 pounds lighter. Exercise more and you could lose more, too. 

And Your Number Is… 

You exercise: Almost never 
Multiply your current weight by: 12 

You exercise: Lightly, one to three days a week 
Multiply your current weight by: 13.5 

You exercise: Moderately, three to five days a week 
Multiply your current weight by: 15.5 

You exercise: Vigorously, six to seven days a week 
Multiply your current weight by: 17 

You exercise: Vigorously, daily, and you have a physical job 
Multiply your current weight by: 19 

Our mindsets need to change… really. When you getting ideas to “lose weight” you really should be looking up FAT LOSS…there’s a difference. I keep trying to inform people how bad the scale is.. I hate the scale for defining success. Our scales may not budge because we are gaining muscle pounds, but losing fat pounds. We need to pay mooooooore attention to the non-scale victories… Have any questions about that, refer to my blog post entitled “Numbers.” We let numbers define us too much, to the point of using a number to define our eating habits.